by Amber Ferguson
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14 January 2025
“People ask me what my religion is. I tell them, “My religion is kindness.” His Holiness the XIV Dalai Lama In yoga, the principles that guide us are known as the Yamas and Niyamas, coming from the Yoga Sutras. Patanjali set out these ethical guidelines which can be interpreted today as a means towards living a balanced, meaningful life. The first of these Yamas is Ahimsa, often translated as non-violence, non-harm or compassion. While this might sound simple at first, Ahimsa has a profound depth that touches every aspect of our lives, from how we treat others to how we care for ourselves. In this blog, I want to explore what Ahimsa means, how it can be applied on the yoga mat and in daily life, and how it particularly relates to pregnancy, the postnatal period, and family life. What is Ahimsa? At its core, Ahimsa is the practice of non-violence in thought, word, and action. It’s more than simply avoiding harm—it’s an active choice to cultivate kindness, compassion, and understanding. This principle invites us to approach ourselves and others with gentleness, avoiding judgment, criticism, or unnecessary harm. Ahimsa begins with awareness. Often, harm is unintentional or stems from a lack of understanding. By bringing mindfulness into our actions, we can recognise where harm might be occurring and take steps to align our behaviour with kindness and care. Ahimsa on the Yoga Mat On the yoga mat, Ahimsa encourages us to practice with compassion for our bodies. It’s easy to push ourselves too hard, striving to achieve the “perfect” pose or comparing our abilities to others. Ahimsa reminds us to honour where we are, letting go of judgment and respecting our limits. For example: • Listen to Your Body: If a pose feels painful or uncomfortable, modify it or take a break. Yoga is not about forcing your body but working with it in a nurturing way. • Be Kind in Your Mind: Notice your inner dialogue during practice. Replace critical thoughts with encouraging ones, such as “I’m doing my best today.” • Create a Safe Space: Whether in a class or at home, ensure your practice space feels supportive and free of distractions, allowing you to focus on your well-being. Ahimsa in Daily Life Off the mat, Ahimsa asks us to approach the world with empathy and care. This might involve: • Kind Communication: Speak with honesty and gentleness, avoiding words that might hurt others. Practice active listening to truly understand others’ perspectives. • Compassionate Choices: Consider how your actions impact others, animals, and the planet. This could include choosing cruelty-free products or reducing waste to care for the environment. • Self-Compassion: Ahimsa also means being kind to yourself. Let go of self-criticism and prioritize rest, nourishment, and self-care when needed. Ahimsa During Pregnancy and Postnatal Life Pregnancy and the postnatal period are times of immense change, both physically and emotionally. During these stages, Ahimsa takes on a unique relevance, guiding us to care for ourselves and our growing families with gentleness and love. • In Pregnancy: o Practising Ahimsa during pregnancy means honouring your body’s needs as it nurtures new life. Rest when you’re tired, nourish yourself with wholesome foods, and avoid overexertion. On the yoga mat, focus on poses and practices that feel supportive, avoiding anything that creates strain or discomfort. o Emotionally, Ahimsa might mean letting go of perfectionism and embracing the changes in your body with acceptance. Pregnancy is a journey, and it’s okay to have days where you feel less than your best. Approach these moments with kindness. • In the Postnatal Period: o After childbirth, Ahimsa reminds us to be patient with ourselves as we recover. The body has done incredible work, and healing takes time. Avoid comparing yourself to others or feeling pressured to “bounce back.” Focus on gentle yoga practices and deep relaxation. o Connecting with your baby in a nurturing way that prioritises tenderness, this might mean skin to skin, gentle baby massage or yoga. Every baby is a person too, and deserves respect. We can do this for instance by telling them you are going to give them a massage or change their nappy. o Emotionally, Ahimsa might involve seeking support when needed . Whether it’s asking a partner to help with household tasks or joining a postnatal yoga group, kindness includes allowing others to care for you. Ahimsa in Family Life and with Children Ahimsa offers a beautiful foundation for parenting and family life. It invites us to cultivate a home filled with understanding and respect, where every member feels valued and safe. • Practising Ahimsa with children means approaching them with patience and empathy. Children are constantly learning, and mistakes are part of the process. Instead of reacting with frustration, guide them with gentle encouragement. • Modelling self-kindness is also a powerful way to teach children about Ahimsa. When they see you treating yourself with care and speaking kindly to yourself, they learn to do the same. • In family relationships, Ahimsa encourages us to listen deeply, avoid harsh words, and address conflicts with compassion. It’s about creating a supportive environment where everyone feels heard and loved. Embracing Ahimsa Ahimsa is a lifelong practice, one that deepens as we bring it into different areas of our lives. It starts with small, mindful choices—a moment of patience, a kind word, or a gentle stretch on the yoga mat. Over time, these small acts create a ripple effect, fostering greater peace within ourselves and in the world around us. Whether you’re on the mat, navigating the challenges of parenting, or simply moving through your day, Ahimsa reminds us to lead with love and compassion. It’s a practice that nurtures not only ourselves but everyone we encounter. Join me in embracing Ahimsa in your yoga practice and daily life. Whether you’re expecting, a new parent, or simply looking to bring more kindness into your world, yoga can support you on this journey. Contact me at Yoga with Amber for classes and resources tailored to your needs.